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Therapists Are Humans, Not Robots — Here’s a Bit About My Style I think it’s important for clients to understand who their therapist is and get a feel for their personality. That connection can be the difference between change and healing—or stagnation. There are so many therapists in the world, and if one doesn’t fit, I encourage you to keep trying. Just like finding the right clothes, doctor, or mechanic, the right therapist is someone who understands you and makes you feel

Dating in the modern world is a unique kind of endurance race—especially on online platforms. Profiles, swipes, and messages can feel like a never-ending series of mini-interviews, where chemistry, energy, and connection are tested before a single coffee date. But here’s the truth: attraction is essential. If it isn’t there, pretending otherwise only slows you down and drains your emotional energy. So grab your energy gel packs, your water and extra socks because we are strap

One in three women will experience some form of abuse in their lifetime. And one in four men will experience some form of abuse also. That statistic alone helps explain why terms like “narcissism” are everywhere right now—on social media, in podcasts, and in everyday conversations. Before we go further, let’s be clear about something important: I’m not diagnosing anyone reading this, and I’m not diagnosing your partner. That wouldn’t be ethical or appropriate. What I am  spea

I recently listened to Jonathan, author of The Anxious Generation , and one idea really stuck with me: the way people born or raised in the 2010s are experiencing unprecedented levels of anxiety—and social media is a huge factor. It got me thinking about my own relationship with scrolling. How often do I pick up my phone, intending to check something quickly, only to find myself trapped in an endless loop? Scrolling, scrolling, scrolling, unable to put the phone down. And the

After working with many clients over the course of a year or more, I’ve noticed a powerful—and often overlooked—theme: When there’s no data, there are no real solutions. Without clear insight into what’s actually happening in your day-to-day life, it’s incredibly easy to fall into the same patterns again and again. You might feel  stuck, frustrated, or confused… but without information, it’s nearly impossible to understand why. Think Like a Scientist (Yes, Really) I often use

I recently went through a box of childhood things, and the experience stirred something deep in me—a pit in my stomach that felt like it needed to be purged. As I sifted through old memories, I was immediately catapulted back to being that five-year-old version of myself. I saw myself on the couch with a sliver in my big toe, a moment that felt monumental at the time. I remember crying, gagging, and being physically overwhelmed while someone tried to remove it, others held me

One area of anxiety that I’ve managed to tackle —though maybe not fully conquer—is exercise. Every winter, like clockwork, it happens. It’s cold. It’s dark. The alarm goes off and the last thing I want to do is leave my warm bed—let alone scrape my windshield and head to the gym. My morning walks disappear. My body softens. My muscles feel less defined. And if I’m not careful, my inner dialogue gets sharp. You know the voice: You’re lazy. You’re slipping. You need to push har

I want to begin with an important clarification: I am not speaking for all  women. Women’s sexual desire is diverse, nuanced, and deeply personal. What I am  speaking to is a population that is far larger than many people realize—a group of women whose inner worlds are often misunderstood, dismissed, or quietly judged. If you’ve ever wandered onto the darker side of BookTok or found yourself unable to put down a dark romance novel, you know this group exists. I know it exists

I grew up in the ’90s, which means shows like Dawson’s Creek  were part of my emotional education. Like many people from that era, I’ve continued to follow the cast into adulthood. Recently, a video from James Van Der Beek appeared on my feed where he spoke candidly about the evolution of himself within his marriage—and how essential it has been for him and his wife to continue growing together. Not long before that, I saw another husband and father share advice for fellow me

I’ve been part of the workforce since I was sixteen. For years, working multiple jobs was not an exception—it was my normal. By my late twenties, I was juggling a full-time job alongside three bartending gigs, constantly moving, constantly producing, constantly pushing through exhaustion because that’s what we’re taught to do. In January of 2020, my body forced me to stop. I landed in the hospital with what felt like my first heart attack. Given my family history—my grandfath

Love can feel intoxicating—but sometimes, it’s quietly eroding your sense of self. Recognizing the warning signs is the first step toward staying fully you while in a relationship. 1. You Constantly Compromise Your Values Sign:  You agree to things that feel wrong, just to avoid conflict or keep your partner happy. Why it happens:  Fear of loss, attachment patterns, or cultural messaging can make “sacrificing yourself” feel like love. Reclaim it:  Pause before saying yes—ask,

Every January, we are told to do the same thing: set goals, push harder, fix ourselves, grind forward. New year, new you. And yet, so many people feel like they’ve already failed by February. I don’t believe that’s because people lack discipline or motivation. I believe it’s because we are being asked to move against nature . The New Year arrives in the heart of winter—a season that teaches the opposite of hustle. Winter is not a time for expansion or productivity. It is a ti

The holidays are often painted as a time of joy, connection, and togetherness. But for many people, they can also be emotionally exhausting, triggering, and deeply dysregulating. If you find yourself feeling more anxious, irritable, shut down, or on edge this time of year, there is nothing “wrong” with you. There is context. Why the Holidays Activate Us So Deeply Many of us grow up in families where we are unconsciously assigned a role: The peacemaker The responsible one The

Women are tired. Tired of being looked at, lusted over, flirted with, touched but unseen still. Tired of giving nurture without receiving it. Tired of never being babied, softened, or cared for in the way they instinctively care for others. It is exhausting to only receive tenderness when we ask  for it. When we demand  it. When we finally do it ourselves because waiting feels lonelier than self‑reliance. Looking Is Not Seeing To look  at a woman is easy. To see  her requires

As a therapist, I’ve sat with many people who have quietly wondered if life is even worth continuing—not because they want to die, but because they are exhausted . Truly, bone-deep exhausted. Not from one moment or one crisis, but from years—sometimes decades—of being the caretaker, the problem-solver, the emotional sponge for everyone around them. Think of the child who watched her mother being abused and stepped into the role of protector far too young. She grows up and cho

Abuse. Domestic Violence (DV). Intimate Partner Violence (IPV). Assault. So many terms to describe the depths of psychological,...

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Suicide is the second leading cause of death in children ages 10-14. Bullying in person and online, children using substances in school...

Before we begin: A common theme in my posts will be about family dynamics, generational trauma, how to navigate estrangement, parenting...